Compassionate Boundaries are in God’s Image (Compassionate Boundaries Part 2)

Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness         Nancy Virden (c)2013


In our beginning, God created you and me. We were void of understanding, and many of us missed that the Spirit of God was hovering over us, excited to unfold the dreams of his newest love. 

We began our journey of learning who we are, how we fit in the world, and who is our Heavenly Father. Some of us gave our lives to his Son Jesus, and some chose to worship other gods. Many have tried to do both.

God set in motion the tedious process of teaching us to exchange our will for his. As beloved yet often foolish children, he separated for us right from wrong and good from evil through laws, conscience, and significant people whose job it is to guide us in truth.

He drew boundaries that most of us can see.

For some, good deeds and thoughtfulness were a driving force. Self-sacrifice became our identity. It was how we felt we fit in the world. We ascertained that the Heavenly Father was pleased by our service.

People seemed to appreciate us tooLiking the approval that felt like love, in some ways we traded our wills for the will of people around us, and told ourselves it was all for God.

Sure enough, some of our good deeds and accomplishments made a difference in the world. Clearly, we thought, lifesaving is my calling. However, confusion led our thoughts because personal pain intensified. Existing for other people was destroying us from the inside out.

God set the example to follow. He is not a doormat and does not change when we demand he do so. He gives his all for us out of pure love and not because he needs human approval. 

When we began to practice similar boundaries, we saw more of who he created us to be. We wanted freedom, and he helped us say no to people who would steer us from it. Yes, it’s been a journey – longer for some.

In that moment we gave up trying to earn his favor and everyone else’s, we grew closest to his extravagant love. Grace began to make sense. 


NOTE: I am not a trained or licensed mental health professional. I am not a doctor. I speak only from my experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.

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