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Take Charge of Those Pesky Negative Thoughts

Compassionate Love: Displaying Compassion for Those Who Struggle with Mental Illness or Abuse  (c)2015 Nancy Virden, Always The Fight Ministries

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Have you ever walked past your bed and thought, “I could use a nap”? It is possible you were not even tired before that thought occurred.

We do have control over what thoughts dominate our mind. Some of our thinking events are just habit, and like any habit, they can be exchanged for new ones. 

Think of a thought habit you do not want. If you will take the time to complete this exercise, I believe you will be surprised at the positive outcome.

Make the exchange

1) What consistent triggering event do you experience? (Example: Your mood drops when you sit on the edge of the bed in the morning,)

(2) What is your brain suggesting to you during this triggering event?  What are you thinking? (Example: “Now I have to go to work and face…” or “I don’t have anything to wear I’ll look good in.”)

(3)What is your thought habit? (Example: Associating this moment and seat with stress or negative self-talk.)

(4) What thought habit would you prefer? (Example: Associating this moment and seat with the power to make life better.)

(5) What decision do you want to make? (Example:  “I want to feel better in the morning and will exchange this thought habit.”)

(6) How will you make your exchange? Be creative with your senses and apply what you know brightens your mood. Here are some ideas.

(a)Change the environment.  (Redecorate the area; move the bed.)

(b)Change the context.  (Make this the spot for foot rubs, saying prayers, reading, or calling friends.)

(c)Change the  atmosphere. (Keep the room cheery by opening windows; invest in a coffee maker that starts before you do so you wake to the scent)

(d)Use grounding techniques that help keep your mind on the facts. (Place on the nightstand a list of accomplishments or positive affirmations from other people)

(7) Make a quality decision for when you will start. (Example: I will buy the coffee maker after work; I will write down the positives people say about me today.)

(8) What is the first action you will take next time this triggering event occurs? (Example: Read the list.)

If  you take charge of your thought life,  more happiness will greet you in the morning.

Today’s Helpful Word  

Philippians 4:8 

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

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NOTE:  I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental and behavioral health challenges.  In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S.  (for international emergency numbers, go here ), or go to your nearest emergency room. Do not be alone. Hope and help are yours.

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Compassionate Love: Displaying Compassion for Those Who Struggle with Mental Illness   (c)2015 Nancy Virden

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I  solation.

I am not sure it is ok to bother anyone with my

happiness, pain, proud moment, fear

loneliness

I am by myself with no one coming to help, no one to rescue me

of course!

I am inadequate, ugly, stupid, always making mistakes

people are hurt by me, tired of me

Who are these who tell me to turn my mood around, change my thoughts?

I am weak, cannot bring improvement to this world!

they do not see

I’m not worth fighting for

I will not tell anyone of my experiences or opinions

I’ll skip the meeting, crawl under the covers, not call anyone and refuse calls,

stay home

I’m ashamed, and

better off alone.

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Comments are always welcome (see tab below).  NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.

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The Difference a Day Can Make

Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness  (c)2015  Nancy Virden

People Silhouette at Sunset CaliforniaAnxious thoughts founded on wanting to take back something I had given up,  had spiraled my mood down into discouragement for days. My head hurt, hands shook, and well, it was an effort to move. That was Tuesday.

Then the sun set and rose as it always does.

It had been a sleepless night- after all, my mind questioned why it should rest when life is so hard? There was no logic, just reactionary behavior. By morning I felt worse. “When will this stop hurting?” I asked God in tears. “Please help me to understand, again, why this has to happen this way.”

I had in mind to solve my problem. There was a simple solution- in a matter of minutes what I missed could be the answer it once was. I would be trading the best for the good. A compromise like that would solve a short-term difficulty but carried negative implications for the rest of my wellbeing. Would I be one to give up the fight and scramble for immediate gratification?

What kind of person did I truly want to be?

Comfort came in the form of a short statement I read in the book of Micah reminding me we cannot understand the greater plan God has for any circumstance. Struggle that looks impossible and meaningless is never actually either. With a sigh of deep trust in the One who has never let me down, I set out to explore the gift of Wednesday.

A visit to a person who had been ill and is now better allowed me to get out of those circling thoughts and into her world.

Upon arriving home I saw a package with a card inside from a young friend. The first line is, “I wanted you to know how incredibly special you are,” and the message got better from there.

Then my son called, which probably needs no explanation as to the cheer that brought his mother.

Sleep was easy Wednesday night. More importantly, it was peaceful. Negative thinking had been overruled by positive interaction with God and people. The sun always sets and rises to a new chance, to possibilities for change.

What a difference a day can make.

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help is yours.

*pictures from qualitystockphotos.com