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What is True Love? Not This…

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Every form of abuse is about power and control. True love is about mutual respect and honor.

PLAYGROUND BULLY: I’ll punch you if you don’t give me your iPhone.

PHYSICAL ABUSER: I’ll punch you where no one will see the bruises, act the hero, and tell everyone you’re crazy if you try to talk about it. No need to give me the iPhone.

SEXUAL ABUSER: I’ll hurt you and have fun doing it, then you’ll know your worth is bound in how you satisfy me. I own you and your iPhone.

VERBAL ABUSER: You &%#$! Give me the iPhone you little piece of $%&! Oh, you can’t give me the phone because you’re a nobody. You’re worthless.

EMOTIONAL ABUSER: Give me your iPhone because if you do not I will not love you. If you want it back you have to give me what I want or I won’t love you.

FINANCIAL ABUSER:  Your money is mine. My money is mine. I will decide how much you can keep or spend.  iPhone? You don’t need an iPhone because I want a new set of golf clubs.

SPIRITUAL ABUSER: If you do not follow the religious guidelines I made for you, you will go to hell. Guideline one: give me your iPhone.

Today’s Helpful Word  

1 Corinthians 13: 4, 5

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered…”

 

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NOTE:  I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental and behavioral health challenges.  In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental or behavioral health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, in the U.S. call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or for a list of international suicide hotlines, go here.

If you are suicidal with a plan, immediately call 911 in the U.S.  (for international emergency numbers, go here ), or go to your nearest emergency room. Do not be alone. Hope and help are yours.

Give Yourself a Weekend Without the News

Compassionate Love: Displaying Compassion for Those Who Struggle with Mental Illness   (c)2015 Nancy Virden

photo-24706947-watching-tvLong gone are the days of journalists reporting the news; now it is a competition for ratings. Negativity and fear feed ratings.

It’s enough to move the optimists among us into cynical defeatism. That is, if we listen to it. Avoiding the news is one efficient way to shield our minds from pessimism overload.

Our fear of future negatives can be based on repetition of flimsy and sad news reporting. Our anxiety grows when anchors make-up heroic stories to inflate their photo-24777800-businessman-with-cellphoneego. Commentators smugly espouse their opinions as if they are the only people with minds.

It is difficult to know who is promoting life and hope when it seems everyone is speaking death.

We don’t have to listen to them.

It is an option, you know. Some people just ignore the news these days. Yes, it is important to know what is going on in the world so we can be involved and informed. However, we have plenty of access to important topics without settling for garbage.

This weekend, try giving up the news. There are positive situations all around us we can focus on instead. Look for them, be grateful, and feel better.

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from personal experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.

Stories of Random Kindness- How They Changed the World (part 2)

Compassionate Love: Displaying compassion for those who struggle with mental illness  (c)2014 Nancy Virden

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It’s not a sight one would see often. Surrounded on a speeding freeway by cars that seemed to dodge and dance the Do Si Do, I concentrated on driving around a curve without starting a potential 100 car pile-up. My passengers, distracted in conversation, also missed the scene on the side of the road until we passed by too quickly to stop.

A broken-down car was squeezed into an almost non-existent shoulder at the end of the treacherous curve. How the driver managed to pull over, I’ll never know. Within a few inches of hundreds of speeding vehicles, were an elderly man and woman. Both appeared to be in their mid eighties. 

Wearing a buttoned suit and tie, the man stood tall, looking straight ahead, undistracted and dignified as if in a receiving line ready to shake the hands of heads of state. Next to him, his slightly stooped companion sported poise in a fancy dress. She waited casually as if confidently expecting everything to turn out alright.

Clearly, neither of these people were physically able to change a tire or crawl under the car for roadside repairs. They were not safe. 

I turned to my passengers, “I’m going to stop.” By the time those words were spoken, we had sailed another 100 feet.

“You can’t,” someone said from the backseat.

“Does anyone have a phone?”

“I do,” and one was passed to me already connected to 911.

The voice on the other end said, “Emergency. What is your situation?”

“Hello, I’m at mile marker 39 on route 70 South.”

“Yes?”

“About a quarter-mile back there is an elderly couple standing beside a broken down car. They aren’t safe there, but traffic is so fast no one can stop. I wanted you to know.”

“Where on Route 70 did you say they are?”

“Approximately mile 38.”

“We have received numerous calls about them. We know they are there and help is on the way.”

mjybb2eAn incalculable amount of  moments are lost in this country listening to dire and fearsome news reports, and reading ratings-motivated headlines. Lest we become cynical beyond repair, let’s remember that although I saw no one reaching out to a couple in need, many people were doing just that. This didn’t make the news.

o7mevl4We have some control over how much stress and fear we experience. We can turn off the news and proactively focus on finding the many quiet random kindnesses around us and around the world.  Better yet, join in the fun and do one anonymous kind deed each day this new year.

Compassionate love changes the world one broken-down car at
a time.

Today’s Helpful Wordn7tkj5k 

John 15:11

If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete. This is My commandment, that you love one another as I loved you-Jesus

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I speak only from my experiences with and observations of mental illness. In no way is this website intended to substitute for professional mental health care.

If you are struggling emotionally today or feeling suicidal, or concerned about someone who is, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Hope and help can be yours.

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